Is Criticism Killing Your Marriage?

Criticism is destructive to relationships and that is why we have called it a “Marriage Killer”. Criticism is finding something wrong with the other person. Every spouse will do or not do something that their spouse judges as un-approving. You can choose to communicate your desire for a different behavior from your spouse in a way that brings you closer together, or you can choose to communicate your desire for a different behavior from your spouse in a way that tears them down.

Criticism goes beyond communicating what request you have of your spouse’s behavior change. It goes into language about your spouse’s character, identity, family, etc. Criticism is putting down your spouse and finding fault in them. This is often associated with assuming the worst about their intentions.

Marriage 911 Weekend

This relationship-restoring, educational workshop is designed to give couples immediate skills to start healing their troubled marriage. Marriage 911 is offered as an overnight mini-retreat for married couples who are distressed or facing divorce. It is designed for couples who have found conflicts difficult to resolve. This workshop focuses on the issue that lies beneath recurring conflicts creating feelings of insecurity and anxiety. This workshop will help couples to address those issues in new ways and renew feelings of security and hope in marriage.

Your Friend’s Advice is Hurting Your Relationship

Cindy was sitting on the other side of the couch with tears running down her face.  “When I told my best friend Lisa about my unhappy marriage, she told me I should look into what it would cost for a divorce and handed me a phone number of the attorney she used.”

“All I wanted was for Lisa to give me some support.”  Cindy made that call to the attorney’s office who’s sales focused incoming calls receptionist talked her into a face to face, no obligation, free meeting with them to learn more about it.  During the appointment, the divorce attorney’s staff focused on the problems in the marriage and encouraged her to proceed with signing them as her representation just in case things ever proceeded.

Before You Say “I’m Done” and Divorce

“I’M NOT SURE IF I SHOULD CALL YOU OR A DIVORCE LAWYER?”

The Marriage Intensive was developed for couples whose relationship is on life support.  If you are wondering about the future of your relationship and are having trouble seeing a future with your spouse, the Marriage Intensive is the best chance for reviving your relationship.  You can feel hope.  If there is one cell within your body that believes there might be a sliver of hope, you need to give the Marriage Intensive a good try.

Our Marriage Intensives has been successful with couples who have…

  • experienced recent or a history of infidelity, adultery, pornography addictions, sexual acting out;
  • experienced financial disaster due to poor decisions of one spouse and are in deep mistrust over financial matters and the families financial future;
  • been separated for periods of weeks to over a year and who have not had sexual intimacy in over five years;
  • been through repair attempts with marriage counselors, pastors and others that have not worked in the past, and many other situations.

Review “The Secret To Lifetime Love” ebook and get your copy free!

The Secret to Lifetime Love e-book Special

 

If you are willing to write a review, you can download “The Secret To Lifetime Love” ebook free on October 28th & 29th on Amazon only.  This book has been in the top 5 in the Christian Marriage category and is an Amazon Best Seller.  Of course you can always purchase the book in print, audio, or ebook online or at Barnes & Nobles or your favorite bookstore.

Do You Have a Copy of “The Secret to Lifetime Love”?

What is the difference between couples who make their marriage work and those who don’t. In this book, We share what wehave learned working with thousands of families and couples. This book can be used be one person in the relationship, but is best used as a couple. It has been written for couples of all ages and stages. It has helped couples say what they need to say. The struggle in communication in which so many couples find themselves feels like a very stuck place. Applying the principles in this book and completing the exercises (alone or together) significantly impacts couples relationships positively.

Speaking and Hearing Truth

“Every Couple should read this” – Kari Ann

“Roy and Devra do a great job of simplifying how to communicate better with your spouse and live free from barriers that damage marriage. Thank you Roy and Devra for living an example for other marriages and sharing with us new tools.” – Byron

“There are few books out there that really help you, and seem to really want to help you with your problem (relationships in this case) and this book delivers.” – Monika

“What a great book for improving communication in your marriage! The information covered in this book is easy to relate too. At times, I felt as if they had stood in my living room and heard the arguments. I never felt judged or shamed. Positive and encouraging to husbands and wives! A rare find.” – Tia

“This book can be your go-to guide on how to fix, restore, or improve your marriage or relationship. All married couples should have it!!!! Very helpful!” – Austin

“This book contains a plethora of wisdom about how to deal with inevitable conflict in marriage. Concise and practical, it is well worth the short time required to read it, and a great reference when preparing for important conversations in any relationship. Very insightful and compelling!” – J. Wag

“A very truthful and realistic book” – ZRM

“This book will help you in communicating better in your relationship” – Dave Lappin

See This Movie Before You Think About Getting A Divorce!

Devra and I enjoyed a date night in Sugar Land, TX a while back.  We enjoyed a wonderful meal and headed out to see a documentary singularly playing in the Houston area at that specific theater.  We purchased our tickets ahead of time online so that we would make sure we had a seat.   While the cinema was crowded, there was only two other people in the theater showing DivorceCorp.

DivorceCorp bills itself as “A shocking expose of the inner workings of the $50 billion a year US family law industry…(which) shines a bright light on the waste and shameless collusive practices seen daily in family courts.”  As veterans working to keep married couples out of divorce courts, we were anxious to see for ourselves.