Relationships are hard.

Marriage is difficult.

What most of us want at the core of our souls is to do life forever with our spouse. We want to love each other until all of our parts stop working and our dentures get in the way of our kisses. We want to be there for each other in our golden years and in the final years. We want to love deeply and be loved deeply.

Did you know that when your friend’s marriage struggles, it affects your marriage?

According a Pew Research Center study, when a close friend or family member divorces, you are 75% more likely to divorce.  And if your friend’s friend divorces, it still impacts you. When a friend’s friend divorces, you are 33% more likely than other couples to divorce.

We are frequently asked about why couples divorce. Our usual answer is focused on what couples do within their marriage that eventually leads to them living separate lives in the same home. The reasons commonly blamed for divorce, such as infidelity and financial issues, are really symptoms of the marital challenges already experienced in the marriage.

Being able to have a conversation with your spouse about sex is a necessary part of having a successful marriage. You must be willing to mention “the unmentionables” in a respectful discussion. Not discussing sex with your spouse almost always leads to sexual acting out in some destructive way to the relationship. Listening to your spouse’s desires is one of the most powerful things you can do to keep your marriage healthy.

The most important sex organ is the brain. And within the brain we are finding the answer to a very important question that is a common problem within most relationships: “What happened to that loving feeling I felt during the first part of our relationship?”

“You never take out the trash. You’re a lazy bum, just like your father.”

“If I don’t vacuum, it would never get done. I guess you’re fine living like a pig.”

“Where’s supper. I’ve been working all day and I’m hungry. What did you do all day?”

A recent call from a 32 year old wife in a five year old marriage.  “Why is it that my husband showed me a lot of PDA (public display of affection) in our beginning of our relationship but is reluctant to do it now?”

The most important sex organ is the brain. And within the brain we are finding the answer to this very important question that is a common problem within most relationships.