Cindy had set up a coaching call based upon the referral from her Pastor. She arrived to the session with a friend whom she insisted join us in session. Cindy had brought her friend to verify what she was telling us about how horrible of a husband she has. “My pastor, all of my friends, including a counselor friend of mine, agrees with me that he is the problem in our marriage.”
“I can’t remember the last time we went out on a date.”
“We can’t afford to go out. $40 for a sitter and $150 for the night, it is not worth it.”
“With the way she has been treating me, why would I want to waste my time and effort to set up a date?”
These are the very statements made by many of the couples who have found their way to our Marriage Saving Intensive. They have “lost that loving feeling” and believe that they will never get it back with their spouse again.
Donna complained that her “so called” Christian husband was a “hypocrite”. Her heart was hard and critical because she did not experience him as the spiritual leader in the home that she had always expected. When asked about how her frustration was impacting her and how she interacted with him, she shared that she does not want to be around him, she has long periods where she does not like him, and she has little interest in being physically intimate with him.
Saturday, March 21st, 9AM to 3PM
Lunch and Child Care Provided
Earlybird Registration Ends March 15th: $70 per couple
Registration after March 15th: $90 per couple
Life Together Forever Crossbridge Christian Fellowship
Roy and Devra Wooten are veteran marriage champions, whose lives attest to the transforming power of Truth. Through their years of working with countless couples in over one hundred thirty five couples weekends, they have molded their message into an engaging and mixed format of teaching and experiential activities to quickly equip and empower couples toward greater spiritual and relational intimacy.
Couples will learn, experience and practice the application of sound research as Roy and Devra share their real and humorous relationship stories. With other couples, enjoy discovering the way forward in common challenges of relationships with exciting sessions including:
Doing Life Together Forever
Creating a Lifelong Marriage
Speaking and Hearing Truth
Forgiveness and Reconciliation
Stress-Less Living
Healthy Expectations
Courageous Conversations
Sex, Love and Romance
What People Are Saying:
“I was surprised about how funny Roy and Devra are together. Their ministry blessed our couples Date Night event. Many couples who I have been counseling told me afterward how blessed they were by it… We need to have… this every year.” – Senior Pastor
“I highly recommend Roy and Devra for your next couples retreat. Together they gave our couples more than we had hoped for. Roy and Devra Rock!” – Family Minister
“I think the thing that helped the most was how the two of you were so honest about your own relationship. Between your hilarious stories, you shared meaningful and helpful things that reminded me about what I could do better in my marriage of 33 years. Thank you for sharing your gifts with us.” – Minister
“Thank you for giving us hope. We came here in separate cars because this has been a very hard week for us. I didn’t want to come but I came anyway. When we had to sit face to face and talk during the exercises, I began to see some change. I know we have work ahead but I feel hope for the first time in seven years.” – Wife of 12 years
| Date: | February 21, 2015 |
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| Time: | 08:30 AM - 3:00PM |
| Event: | Life Together Forever Workshop |
| Topic: | Couples Workshop |
| Sponsor: |
Cross Bridge Christian Church 281-345-6435 |
| Venue: |
Cross Bridge Christian Church 281-345-6435 |
| Location: | 15415 West Rd. Houston, TX 77095 |
| Public: | Public |
| Registration: | Click here to register. |
| More Info: | Click here for more information. |
Roy and Devra Wooten are veteran marriage champions, whose lives attest to the transforming power of Truth. Through their years of working with countless couples in over one hundred thirty five couples weekends, they have molded their message into an engaging and mixed format of teaching and experiential activities to quickly equip and empower couples toward greater spiritual and relational intimacy.
Couples will learn, experience and practice the application of sound research as Roy and Devra share their real and humorous relationship stories. With other couples, enjoy discovering the way forward in common challenges of relationships with exciting sessions including:
What People Are Saying:
“I was surprised about how funny Roy and Devra are together. Their ministry blessed our couples Date Night event. Many couples who I have been counseling told me afterward how blessed they were by it… We need to have… this every year.” – Senior Pastor
“I highly recommend Roy and Devra for your next couples retreat. Together they gave our couples more than we had hoped for. Roy and Devra Rock!” – Family Minister
“I think the thing that helped the most was how the two of you were so honest about your own relationship. Between your hilarious stories, you shared meaningful and helpful things that reminded me about what I could do better in my marriage of 33 years. Thank you for sharing your gifts with us.” – Minister
“Thank you for giving us hope. We came here in separate cars because this has been a very hard week for us. I didn’t want to come but I came anyway. When we had to sit face to face and talk during the exercises, I began to see some change. I know we have work ahead but I feel hope for the first time in seven years.” – Wife of 12 years
| Date: | January 24, 2015 |
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| Time: | 8:30 AM - 5:30 PM |
| Event: | Life Together Forever Couples Workshop |
| Topic: | Life Together Forever |
| Sponsor: |
Family Services of Greater Houston 713-867-7770 |
| Venue: |
LifePath Church 281-855-0222 |
| Location: | 17703 West Little York Houston, TX 77084 |
| Public: | Public |
| Registration: | Click here to register. |
| More Info: | Click here for more information. |
What is a Crucial Conversation?
A crucial conversation is a conversation that has a high degree of probability that it will involve emotions. Some conversations do not involve emotions and are not emotional. However, when you think you might be triggered emotionally when talking about the conversation, or when you think your spouse might be triggered when having the conversation, the conversation is a crucial conversation.
It is crucial because if they have the conversation, it might lead to high emotions which may result in damage to the relationship. It is also crucial because if there is no conversation, not resolving the issue will lead to further disengagement. This will lead to damage in the relationship.
What is a Crucial Conversation?
A crucial conversation is a conversation that has a high degree of probability that it will involve emotions. Some conversations do not involve emotions and are not emotional. However, when you think you might be triggered emotionally when talking about the conversation, or when you think your spouse might be triggered when having the conversation, the conversation is a crucial conversation.
It is crucial because if they have the conversation, it might lead to high emotions which may result in damage to the relationship. It is also crucial because if there is no conversation, not resolving the issue will lead to further disengagement. This will lead to damage in the relationship.
What is a Crucial Conversation?
A crucial conversation is a conversation that has a high degree of probability that it will involve emotions. Some conversations do not involve emotions and are not emotional. However, when you think you might be triggered emotionally when talking about the conversation, or when you think your spouse might be triggered when having the conversation, the conversation is a crucial conversation.
It is crucial because if they have the conversation, it might lead to high emotions which may result in damage to the relationship. It is also crucial because if there is no conversation, not resolving the issue will lead to further disengagement. This will lead to damage in the relationship.
Contempt is so destructive to relationships that we often call it the worst of the four Marriage Killers. A spouse using contempt places himself in a position of power above the other spouse. The contemptuous person believes they are better, more helpful, more thoughtful, more considerate, more punctual, smarter, cleaner, neater, etc. that their spouse.
Contempt can look like put downs, “one-ups” and snarky sarcastic remarks. It can be as obvious as stating you think the other person is useless, worthless, or disgusting or as subtle as rolling eyes a sigh. What the victim of contempt receives is total disrespect and scorn. Frequently they feel like not only that their spouse does not like them but that perhaps they actually hate them and want bad for them.
The “Silent Treatment” destroys the ability of spouses to communicate and resolve conflict. That is why we have called it a “Marriage Killer”. It is an expression of stonewalling. Stonewalling is just as it sounds: anything we do that is building a stone wall between us and our spouse. Stonewalling means refusing to communicate or cooperate.
Stonewalling is common, although it takes many different forms. Slamming the door as you walk out of the room or pealing out as you leave the driveway. Using the “silent treatment” to be present and talk to everyone else except for the person with whom you are upset. It can look like diving into a book, your cell phone, electronic device like an iPad or laptop, or television. It can also look like hiding out in the “man-cave”, having to work late, or doing a lot of household chores.