Getting Through Tough Times Together

Life is stressful. It is full of everyday little stressors and huge unexpected once-in-a-lifetime stressors. It has wonderfully exciting and “I can’t believe it” joy-filled stressors as well as little joys that also bring about unintended stressors. As long as we are living, we will experience stress.

According to the American Institute of Stress,

  • the annual costs to employers of stress related healthcare and missed wore was measured at $300 Billion in 2014.
  • 77% of Americans regularly experience physical symptoms caused by stress.
  • 73% of Americans regularly experience psychological symptoms caused by stress.
  • 76% of Americans cited work as the leading cause of their stress.
  • 54% of Americans reported stress has caused them to fight with people close to them.
  • 48% of Americans reported lying awake at night due to stress.

Relationships Buffer Stress

Whether you are experiencing acute stress, chronic stress, distress or (happy) eustress, your relationship will make a huge difference in how you manage and adapt to the stress. There is a body or research that scientists have been studying since the mid 1980s that clearly shows relationships one of the most, if not the most, effective buffer to stress.

Three Ways Of Handling The Stress of Life

  1. Let It Divide You – As you experience stressors of life, you can allow the challenge to turn you against each other. You can begin to see your spouse as the cause of the stress and blame your spouse. You can focus on your spouse as being the source of all of the negative affects of stress.
  2. Let It Isolate You – As you experience stressors of life, you can move away from your spouse. You can allow it to be a secret that you keep from your spouse. You can expect that you spouse will not be supportive and not tell them. Or you can avoid your spouse and whatever it going on with them because you feel like you have enough stress of your own.
  3. Tackle It Together – As you experience stressors of life, you can move toward your spouse. You can share the stress in your life and how it is affecting you with your spouse. You can move toward your spouse with comfort and a shared heart to help your spouse open up about their stress. You can work with each other to get through, whatever life throws at you, together.

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This article was written by Roy and Devra Wooten, authors of “The Secret to a Lifetime Love”. Learn more at © Roy and Devra Wooten 2017. All Rights Reserved. You may replicate this article as long as it is provided free to recipients and includes appropriate attribution. Written permission for other use may be obtained at [email protected].