Marriage is hard.
Relationships are difficult.
Even Christian marriages are challenging.
Struggles are a part of the marathon that is life together forever.
If you call Jesus your Savior, then you may find yourself blaming Him. “Why have you left me in this hopeless marriage?” Feeling abandoned, alone and unheard of is common for all people when they are in pain. Jesus was familiar with pain, yes even the kind of pain you are experiencing now.
Jesus is with you in this season of your marriage.
Our Savior knows what it is like to feel the pain you feel in your marriage. And He made promises to you about this season of your marriage.
Jesus made promises for you during this season of your marriage.
Jesus’ promises for you in the worst times of your marriage:
- You are not alone, He is with you (Matthew 28:20).
- He will never leave you or forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).
- His peace is available to you at all times (John 14:27)
There is hope for you and your marriage.
Unless your marriage is dangerous, here are some reasons why we believe there is hope for your Christian marriage:
- Jesus loves your spouse more than you do. He knew your spouse before you were born and gave Himself up sacrificially because He loves your spouse and you so much.
- If your spouse is a Christian, Jesus has already moved your spouse’s worst moments as far away as the east is from the west. He has already forgiven your spouse and you.
- If you are feeling crucified, you are hanging on a cross that was not meant for you. Your pity party, victim mentality is a place your spouse did not give to you, you found it and put yourself there.
- What you and your spouse went through earlier in life that seems to be the cause of your struggles was not caused by God. God did not cause your spouse’s wounded-ness, but He can redeem it and use it for good.
- You are not strong enough to handle it on your own. God built you to need Him. Jesus is with you, waiting on you to call to Him for His strength.
- This is a season that will pass. There is a time for everything under heaven and this rough period in your marriage will likely change over time.
- You can create the marriage that you really want. You cannot control your spouse, but you can take unilateral action to create the marriage you really want.
What if I am not a Christian?
You may be reading this and thinking that it does not apply to you because you are not a Christian. We want you to know that this article is for you. You can become a Christian, without all the things you dislike about Christian people you see on television or have experienced in your life.
Please contact us ASAP if you have any interest in learning more about becoming a Christian. We want to help you understand more deeply what it is and is not. Please call 281-949-8115 or email Roy@LifeTogetherForever.com. God’s promises are available for everyone. He wants to bless you and your marriage.
What do you have to say?
We love to hear from readers. If you are a longtime Christian and been through struggles in your marriage, what advice do you have for younger Christian spouses? Does it help knowing that Jesus is with you in the tough spots of your marriage and that you are not alone? What would you add to the list of reasons why there is hope for your marriage?
This article was written by Roy and Devra Wooten, authors of “The Secret to a Lifetime Love”. Learn more at www.LifeTogetherForever.com © Roy and Devra Wooten 2015. All Rights Reserved. You may replicate this article as long as it is provided free to recipients and includes appropriate attribution. Written permission for other use may be obtained at Secret@LifeTogetherForever.com.